Do you often feel that there is no one in the world who understands you? Why do we always feel that we are not understood by others?
Then we first need to understand how we experience this game in this three-dimensional world of binary opposition? At the same time, we also need to understand who is receiving retribution?
There is a saying in Buddhism: "Dependent Origination and Emptiness", what does it mean? That is to say, when our mind thinks together, the so-called thought refers to the heart moving, just like a bubble popping up in our heart. At this time, we begin to activate our magical powers in the three-dimensional world, and our six roots, six dusts, and six consciousnesses begin to operate. Then the plot begins to appear, and the script begins to be performed. What are the six roots? It is our eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body, and mind. Who controls the six roots? It is our six consciousnesses. The six consciousnesses are our vision, hearing, smell, taste, touch, and perception. The six consciousnesses use the six roots as a tool to feel and recognize the six objects. We call them six dusts. This is how we experience this game. After understanding this principle, let's see if everyone's six roots, six dusts, and six consciousnesses are unified? Is it the same standard?
Let's first look at the eyes. Everyone's vision and our sensitivity to colors are obviously different. Compared with animals, the difference is even greater, so we have different preferences. Some people like red, some people like blue. When seeing a beautiful woman, some people think she is very beautiful, some people think it is just okay, some people think it is not good-looking, I don't like it, or even hate it. The same is true for our hearing. For the same sound, some people think it is pleasant, some people think it gives them a headache. For the same volume, some people think the sound can be louder, some people think the sound is just right, and some people think it is too noisy. There are also huge differences in smell, taste, touch, and perception, especially perception. Our views on a thing vary greatly. Different positions, different angles, different cognitions, different experiences, etc., a little difference will lead to very different views.
Because of this, we all have different preferences and personalities. We all think we are the most special one. Everyone longs for recognition from others, but at the same time, we are afraid that we are too different and will be excluded by others. We are more worried that this "I" will disappear and this role will disappear. This is because we originally came from emptiness and from oneness, so we will always find a balance in the back-and-forth tug-of-war between the small self and the oneness.
Next, let's see who is receiving retribution in this experience? Is it this "I"? In fact, it is our roots and dust that are receiving retribution. We are sad and frustrated because we can't see what we want to see, or see what we don't want to see, hear what we don't want to hear, can't hear what we want to hear, can't get what we want, and get what we don't want. The most special thing about this is that our roots and dust each receive their own retribution. For the same event, we stand at different angles and have different cognitions, so our concerns are different, and the entanglements shown by the roots and dust are also different, and everyone's attachments are also different. For example, a mother and her child, the mother takes care of the child with all her heart every day. The mother feels that she works so hard every day, fearing that the child will be hungry or cold. In short, she holds the child in her hands for fear of dropping it, and holds it in her mouth for fear of melting it. The mother's obsession is that she cannot see the child suffer the slightest grievance. The child, on the other hand, also faces the love of his mother, sees everything his mother does for him every day, and hears every word of his mother, but he may not necessarily feel love, but a sense of being controlled and suffocated, so he gets annoyed when he hears his mother talking, and is not moved by her meticulous care, but just wants to escape. From the mother's perspective, she will feel that she has done so much, why don't you understand me, and that she does this for your own good, while the child feels that he needs his own space, that he has grown up, and that he does not want to be a mama's boy in the eyes of others, so why don't you understand me?
We may have heard of this example more or less in our lives, or even experienced it ourselves, including in relationships between men and women. The husband thinks what you should be like as a wife, and the wife thinks what you should be like as a husband. The boss thinks what the employees should be like, and the employees think what the boss should be like. The teacher thinks what the students should be like, and the students think what the teacher should be like? And so on. Such examples are everywhere. We are all receiving retribution. Everything is because of the root dust, because the discriminating mind produces different self-attachments.
Our roots and dusts are receiving retribution, and each of them is receiving their own retribution. Although the six roots are the same, because of the deviation of the six consciousnesses, our attachment points are different. This is why you can't find someone who can fully understand you. When we try to tell our pain through good friends and family, the listener can only try to understand your feelings through your expression. In this process, the listener will analyze and judge your words again, that is, after another discrimination, he will show understanding and sympathy. Let's not talk about how much authenticity there is in the understanding and sympathy, but he really can't achieve a completely consistent understanding, and it's difficult to truly empathize.
This is why we feel that we can't get others' understanding, because everyone's roots and dusts are different, and the discrimination is different. This is why we need to let our roots fall off during the practice, and if one root falls off, all six roots will fall off. If our mind is attached to the roots, each of us will be like a blind man touching an elephant, unable to see the true face of things. So we need to let the roots fall off first, stay away from it, stand higher, so that we can see the essence of things. In other words, we have found the switch to turn on or off the supernatural power of the roots. At the same time, in this process, we will experience the feeling of unity of all things. At this stage, we can truly empathize with the feelings of others, because the feelings at this stage are connected. At this time, our compassion can be truly revealed.